Can you identify the crybabies at your place of work? Is it you?
Symptoms of a Crybaby
- Fingerpointing: “Sharon did it!”
- Making Excuses: “I’ve had so much on my plate I haven’t been able to get it done.”
- Changing the Topic: “I know, but… How are things going in Shipping lately?”
- Placing Blame: “Well I may not have finished the report, but Tim didn’t get the presentation done.”
- Sweating the Small Stuff: “It’s so hot in here.” “I need a new chair, this one is uncomfortable.”
- Naysaying: “Why do we do it this way?” “This is stupid.” “Things are so messed up.”
- Speaking in Absolutes: “I ¬always have to do this.” “She never has enough work anyway.” “I have to do everything.”
Ways to not be a Crybaby
- Help others out: “Hey Sharon, do you need some help?”
- Take Responsibility: “I know I missed the deadline. That is why I am working to finish it right now.”
- Address the Issue: “Thanks for bringing that up. I will take care of it immediately.”
- Own up to it: “I apologize. I struggled with the first part of the report. Do you have any tips so I can get it done more quickly?”
- Fix it OR Forget it: “I dress in layers to stay comfortable.”
- Bring Solutions: “Can we try it this way to see what happens?” “I have a suggestion on how to improve the situation.”
- Understand the Difference Between Perception and Reality: “It seems I do a lot of these reports. Could you help with knocking a few of these out for me?”
How to deal with Crybabies
- Let them know they are doing it and refer them to the above suggestions.
- If (1) fails, let them take a walk right out of the front door.
Crybabies bring down morale and create a negative work environment for the rest of the team. If you can’t coach them out of it, start working them out of the team.